The visual is as stunning as it is disturbing. A woman lies prone on a bathroom floor, her underwear pulled down around her ankles. The implication is she is the victim of a sex assault.
Even worse is the finger-wagging tone of the ad: “She didn’t want to do it, but she couldn’t say no.”
The ad was commissioned by the Pennsylvania Liquor Board to dramatically illustrate the dangers to women of drinking alcohol to excess to the point they can be taken advantage of. Following a slew of criticism for the ad as victim-blaming, the board has pulled the ad.
Haven’t we learned yet it’s not a woman’s fault if she is raped?
The ad was absolutely asinine, tasteless, lurid, but its biggest problem is the advice is useless.
A woman can drink until she’s down on all fours and not be raped.
A woman can sip ginger ale all night long and be raped.
It does not matter if a woman is drunk on her ass or sober as a judge. She can do everything wrong and get home safe and sound. She can do everything right and become a victim.
Drinking to excess is not a good idea for anyone. If it’s not a valid excuse for a man to say, “I drank too much. That’s why I raped her” why would it be a valid reason to blame a woman by saying, “You drank too much. That’s why you got raped.”
What should be done now is to burn all those posters and come up with a new one and this one should hold the proper parties accountable. REAL MEN DON’T RAPE.
The penis is not a separate, sentient organism. Men control the penis, not the other way around and they alone, are responsible where it goes. Don’t put it where it hasn’t been invited and there’s no risk of ever becoming a rapist.
Women should take reasonable and prudent precautions to avoid being a victim of sexual assault. Of course it’s not a good idea to go home with strange men or to drink to excess and lose control of your facilities, but being cautious and aware is not the same thing as living in fear of the inevitability of rape.
Men are not hardwired to rape. They learn how to become a rapist. They can unlearn too. I’ve never raped a woman. That’s not bragging. It didn’t require superhuman restraint not to. All it took was higher brain functions firing on all synapses and cleaned out ears so when she said, “No” it was not confused as meaning “maybe” or “yes” instead.
You can’t take credit for not doing something you’re not supposed to do. It isn’t her fault she got raped. It’s his fault for raping her.
Men rape. Because they chose to. Not because they have to. Women can’t end rape. Only men can do that. Men will end rape when they stop raping. It really is that simple.
- Pennsylvania Liquor Control Board Pulls Ad That Blames Women For Getting Date-Raped (kaystreet.wordpress.com)
- Creepy Alcohol PSA Blames Victims (And Their Friends!) For Sexual Assault (thegloss.com)
- Don’t rape. Full stop. (andrewlohhp.wordpress.com)
- What’s Wrong With This Picture? (ken_ashford.typepad.com)