The Difference Between a Victim and a Villain

Tamir Rice: Armed and dangerous playing with a toy gun. Had to die.

I read a lot of stuff online.  Some of it is smart and most of it is not.  I read something on a website after last week’s FBI shooting of Robert “LaVoy” Finicum, one of the militia militants who have taken over and occupied the Malheur National Wildlife Refuge, now dragging into 33 days with no end in sight.

Finicum’s death has given his fellow extremists the martyr for their anti-government rebellion and one of Finicum’s fellow fanatics, Jason Patrick made a totally insane comparison when he likened Finicum’s death to the killing of Tamir Rice, an unarmed 12-year-old African American boy fatally shot by police outside a Cleveland recreation center in 2014.

“The government can kill who they want for whatever reason they want with impunity,” Patrick said.

An anti-government, gun-toting, wannabee revolutionary crazy man is comparable to what happened to Rice? BULLSHIT!  Finicum was armed with a rife with real shells. Rice had a toy pistol. Rice was blown away by the Cleveland cops within three seconds. Finicum wandered around federal property for 27 days before he was shot while toting a weapon.

I forgot how much Americans love their outlaws and there will always be those who take the side of the outlaws even when they bring their fate down on their own head as one poster did in a forum post.

“And now one of them’s dead. Poor dumb bastard. I get the impression he didn’t want to live, and I wonder how his life went so wrong. Was he reaching for a gun? Damned if I know. I’ve watched the slowed-down aerial shots, and maybe he was just flapping his arms around trying to keep his balance in deep snow. People do that. I’ve done that within the last week, my muscles still remember what it feels like. Maybe at that moment he didn’t mean any more harm than Tamir Rice did. Or maybe he did. But he’d created a situation, blustering and posing, where the guy who shot him had no other choice. I hope the guy who shot him comes to understand that.”

It shouldn’t be necessary to explain Robert “LaVoy” Finicum was a 55-year-old White man armed with a rifle who declared he would rather die than surrender who illegally occupied the refuge for nearly a month while Tamir Rice was a 12-year-old Black boy armed with a toy gun who never had a chance to surrender as he died on a Cleveland playground with three seconds of the police arriving.

Like flies to cow pies, this sort of lawlessness contempt and disdain for any authority whatsoever only encourages more contempt and disdain for the law and authority. Wannabees have been emboldened by the Oregon stand-off and some of them are ready to kill for their twisted beliefs.

The cops and the FBI didn’t start this, but they have guns too and if these snack-swallowing “patriots” want to go out in a blaze of glory, that’s their call.

Finicum abandoned his home and family to sit in the snow and give bullshit press conferences railing against the government. Rice was being a boy doing what boys do in playing with a toy gun. Finicum was an armed militia extremist. Rice was a kid. Finicum proclaimed he was a law-abiding citizen who loved, God, family, and freedom. Rice didn’t hold any press conferences to proclaim what he loved. Pizza, maybe?

Rice was a boy who never had a chance to grow any older. Finicum was a grown man who threw away his chance and there’s one less gun-toting nut in the world.

If someone wanted to compare the fate of Mr. Finicum with that of other anti-government radicals like Gordon Kahl, Randy Weaver, and Timothy McVeigh, that would be a valid comparison. Tamir Rice’s killing has nothing to do with what happened to Finicum. One was murdered where he stood while the other reportedly yelled, “Just shoot me!” and the authorities complied.

Agitating to die is not the same thing as being gunned down without so much as a warning.

No matter how many how many of his fellow armed militia extremists or simple-minded sympathizers try to dig up and co-opt Rice’s corpse and try to compare the death of an innocent boy with the death of a radical extremist, there is zero truth to it. It only cheaply devalues the life of an innocent who was murdered before he ever had a chance to live to make a misanthropic hater who chose suicide-by-cop look a little less crazy.

There’s a world of difference between a victim and a villain. Robert Finicum thought he was a hero. Thought he was a patriot. Thought he could overthrow a government with a rifle. He thought wrong and now he’s dead.

Robert Finicum. Sedition. Armed with a rifle. Giving press conferences for nearly a month.

Robert Finicum. Sedition. Armed with a rifle. Giving press conferences for nearly a month.

Tamir was just a kid in the park who crossed the path of a trigger-happy killer cop who had no business whatsoever with a gun and a badge. They aren’t remotely the same sort of death. They aren’t even remotely on the same planet.

It shouldn’t be necessary to explain this but I’m not surprised it is.

Not Ready Yet to Feel the Bern.

Elect me and GET EVERYTHING FREE!

I keep hearing some rumor about Bernie Sanders as the Democratic nominee for president.  So can someone tell me what that’s about? The Bernie Sanders I know isn’t a Democrat and never has been.

Sanders has definitely over promised and will undeliver as president. If a moderate Democratic president gets nothing from a far-Right Congress a Democratic Socialist will get less than nothing.

Bernie jump starts the heart of dissatisfied liberals in way Hillary Clinton never could, but the idealism has to be offset by the practical in a purely practical sense I do not see a way Sanders gets anything done with a Republican Congress which would be even more hostile to his Democratic socialism than they were to his predecessor President Obama whom Republicans accused of being a socialist.

Politics does not care about “possible” and “impossible.” Politics cares about do you have enough votes? A President Sanders would enter office with not enough reliable votes among the Dems and none among the Repubs.

Optimism is one thing Sanders supporters have in spades. What they don’t have are policy initiatives which can be turned into the law of the land. I said Sanders has over promised. He has. I said politics is about how many votes you have and Sanders doesn’t have enough: not in the popular vote, not in the Electoral College, and certainly not in the House and Senate.

No..I'm not interested in being your vice-president, Hillary.

No..I’m not interested in being your vice-president, Hillary.

Look at history and see what happened the Democrats nominated a candidate as liberal as Sanders. That would be George McGovern in 1972 and he lost all but two states to Richard Nixon and got slaughtered in the Electoral College 520-17.

I hate to tell my fellow progressives this hard, but salient truth: the majority of Americans are not as far to the Left as we are, but if you’re going to be on one political extreme than the other, it works better to be on the far Right. Just ask Trump and Cruz. Moderates on both sides far better than the fringes.

For a Bernie Sanders presidency to work, you would first need to have Democratic Socialists in prominent positions as U.S. governors, senators, and representatives. There would have to be a established, entrenched and vibrant base already securely in place for a President Sanders to succeed with his ambitious agenda. Without that support system, electing Sanders would make him nothing but a figurehead with no legislative clout whatsoever.

I don’t dislike Sen. Sanders in the least. If anything I’m far closer to Sanders in terms of my personal philosophy than I am a mushy moderate like Clinton. However, I don’t believe Sanders can win the general election and that is what I’m most concerned about.

If you can’t beat your own local Republican representative it doesn’t matter if Sanders wins (which I don’t believe he can because they never would LET him win and I don’t see a snowball’s chance of him getting 270 electoral votes), so if you don’t want to deal with more gridlock, start by voting against EVERY Republican on the ballot because little ones grow up to become big ones, start running and supporting progressives and real liberals locally and groom them to become national ones.

That’s how the other side is doing it and they’re winning. We’re just whining and losing.   You have to play a long game to win the game of politics unless you have Koch and Adelson bucks when you can just buy all the whores you want and get them elected.

I don’t give a shit about progressives/centrists/liberals/moderates/conservatives or any of these manufactured, made-up terms designed to divide and conquer people. Everybody needs clean water, fresh air, edible food and a safe place to live. Tell me who’s got the best PLAN to get Black folks there and I’m all-in.

No permanent friends, no permanent enemies. Only permanent interests. I do not discern a significant difference in how a Republican or Democratic lights the streets and picks up the garbage. If Bernie Sanders is the best choice to advance my interests, I’ll support him.

But first Sanders has to convince me he can win in November.  I want the strongest candidate in the general election who can keep the White House from falling into the hands of the Republicans.  I know how Clinton can win.  I’m waiting for Sanders to show me how a Socialist can win in Red State America.

I’m still kicking the tires on the Bernie Bus and the Clinton Cruiser and haven’t decided which one I’m ready to ride on.   It would be nice if if the Sanders supporters weren’t on my ass to choose a side or questioning whether I’ve taken leave of my senses because I haven’t signed on yet.   Back up and give a brutha room to breathe, okay?

President Obama’s Last Bow

I watched, I enjoyed it and I think the president took pains not to take a victory lap. He didn’t try to introduce a wish list of items Congress will never give him. He was definitive that America is still the world’s Number One superpower and our military takes a back seat to nobody. Obama made it clear he isn’t going to cut ISIS and Al Qaeda any slack for the rest of his presidency and he used the word “terrorism” repeatedly.

I told you earlier all the talk of America’s economic decline is political hot air. Well, so is all the rhetoric you hear about our enemies getting stronger and America getting weaker. The United States of America is the most powerful nation on Earth. Period. It’s not even close. We spend more on our military than the next eight nations combined. Our troops are the finest fighting force in the history of the world. No nation dares to attack us or our allies because they know that’s the path to ruin. Surveys show our standing around the world is higher than when I was elected to this office, and when it comes to every important international issue, people of the world do not look to Beijing or Moscow to lead – they call us.

Priority number one is protecting the American people and going after terrorist networks. Both al Qaeda and now ISIL pose a direct threat to our people, because in today’s world, even a handful of terrorists who place no value on human life, including their own, can do a lot of damage. They use the Internet to poison the minds of individuals inside our country; they undermine our allies.


But as we focus on destroying ISIL, over-the-top claims that this is World War III just play into their hands. Masses of fighters on the back of pickup trucks and twisted souls plotting in apartments or garages pose an enormous danger to civilians and must be stopped. But they do not threaten our national existence. That’s the story ISIL wants to tell; that’s the kind of propaganda they use to recruit. We don’t need to build them up to show that we’re serious, nor do we need to push away vital allies in this fight by echoing the lie that ISIL is representative of one of the world’s largest religions. We just need to call them what they are – killers and fanatics who have to be rooted out, hunted down, and destroyed.
If this Congress is serious about winning this war, and wants to send a message to our troops and the world, you should finally authorize the use of military force against ISIL. Take a vote. But the American people should know that with or without Congressional action, ISIL will learn the same lessons as terrorists before them. If you doubt America’s commitment – or mine – to see that justice is done, ask Osama bin Laden. Ask the leader of al Qaeda in Yemen, who was taken out last year, or the perpetrator of the Benghazi attacks, who sits in a prison cell. When you come after Americans, we go after you. It may take time, but we have long memories, and our reach has no limit.
Our foreign policy must be focused on the threat from ISIL and al Qaeda, but it can’t stop there. For even without ISIL, instability will continue for decades in many parts of the world – in the Middle East, in Afghanistan and Pakistan, in parts of Central America, Africa and Asia. Some of these places may become safe havens for new terrorist networks; others will fall victim to ethnic conflict, or famine, feeding the next wave of refugees. The world will look to us to help solve these problems, and our answer needs to be more than tough talk or calls to carpet bomb civilians. That may work as a TV sound bite, but it doesn’t pass muster on the world stage.

The President saved a backhand for Cruz

The President saved a backhand for Cruz

Obama rejected Donald Trump and the scare tactics and saber-rattling of Trumpism without ever mentioning him as well as dishing up a backhand to the absent Sen.Ted Cruz mocking his talk of “carpet-bombing” civilians areas in search of ISIS while firmly repudiating the singling out of Americans based upon sharing a religion with our enemies.

That’s why we need to reject any politics that targets people because of race or religion. This isn’t a matter of political correctness. It’s a matter of understanding what makes us strong. The world respects us not just for our arsenal; it respects us for our diversity and our openness and the way we respect every faith. His Holiness, Pope Francis, told this body from the very spot I stand tonight that “to imitate the hatred and violence of tyrants and murderers is the best way to take their place.” When politicians insult Muslims, when a mosque is vandalized, or a kid bullied, that doesn’t make us safer. That’s not telling it like it is. It’s just wrong. It diminishes us in the eyes of the world. It makes it harder to achieve our goals. And it betrays who we are as a country.

Obama also accepted his own failure to stem the partisan rancor and division in Washington which has now become rigid, systemic and seemingly irreversible.

A better politics doesn’t mean we have to agree on everything. This is a big country, with different regions and attitudes and interests. That’s one of our strengths, too. Our Founders distributed power between states and branches of government, and expected us to argue, just as they did, over the size and shape of government, over commerce and foreign relations, over the meaning of liberty and the imperatives of security.

But democracy does require basic bonds of trust between its citizens. It doesn’t work if we think the people who disagree with us are all motivated by malice, or that our political opponents are unpatriotic. Democracy grinds to a halt without a willingness to compromise; or when even basic facts are contested, and we listen only to those who agree with us. Our public life withers when only the most extreme voices get attention. Most of all, democracy breaks down when the average person feels their voice doesn’t matter; that the system is rigged in favor of the rich or the powerful or some narrow interest.

Too many Americans feel that way right now. It’s one of the few regrets of my presidency – that the rancor and suspicion between the parties has gotten worse instead of better. There’s no doubt a president with the gifts of Lincoln or Roosevelt might have better bridged the divide, and I guarantee I’ll keep trying to be better so long as I hold this office.


But, my fellow Americans, this cannot be my task – or any President’s – alone. There are a whole lot of folks in this chamber who would like to see more cooperation, a more elevated debate in Washington, but feel trapped by the demands of getting elected. I know; you’ve told me. And if we want a better politics, it’s not enough to just change a Congressman or a Senator or even a President; we have to change the system to reflect our better selves.

President Obama gave his last State of the Nation speech. It may have been his finest.

Fat Tony Would Prefer You Lesser Blacks Go Back to Your Lesser Schools.

Scalia knows how many intelligent Blacks he’s met.

I’m a bit behind the news so I missed on commenting on Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia’s outrageous remarks during oral arguments on an affirmative action case, but it doesn’t mean I’m cool how boldly Scalia showed his contempt for Black college students.

You know the conventional wisdom is  Scalia is the possessor of a brilliant legal mind and is easily one of the most intelligent jurists ever to sit on the Supreme Court? The conventional wisdom is wrong and so is Fat Tony.

“One of the briefs pointed out that most of the black scientists in this country don’t come from schools like the University of Texas.  They come from lesser schools where they do not feel that they’re being pushed ahead in classes that are too fast for them.”

What exactly is a “lesser school?” A HBCU or another college not as big as the University of Texas? What classes are “too fast” for Black students?

Fat Tony is saying Black scientists/students come from “lesser” (re: inferior) schools where the pace has been slowed to a point where they can keep up (re: since Blacks are slower in processing complex and difficult material, it must be kept as simple, basic and rudimentary as possible for them to grasp it).

“I’m just not impressed by the fact that the University of Texas may have fewer” minority students. Maybe it ought to have fewer.”

Well, golly gee Tony. I wish you had told me this before I had my daughter waste three years at predominantly White institution before she transferred to a HBCU. We could have sent her to a Black school from the get-go and not wasted the time exposing her to all those White kids she’s not smart enough or fast enough to keep up with.

You don’t have to parse Scalia’s words to find his contempt for the intellectual capacity of “minority” students. You only have to read.

The strongest argument possible against affirmative action is making Clarence Thomas a lifetime member of the United States Supreme Court. He was unqualified when he was selected and time has not made him any less so.

Thomas’ hypocrisy and intellectual inconsistency reeks like an infant’s diaper after too many jars of cream corn. I’m attacking this unqualified, groveling, sniveling dullard because he is the WORST sort of hypocrite because Thomas benefited from the very same affirmative action he now lusts to destroy.

The man is a joke and not a particularly funny one at that. I am repulsed by Clarence Thomas. Not because he’s a conservative. Because he’s selfish, cold, hateful, vengeful and malicious. Thomas is fueled by spite and has turned that spitefulness into a long and sustained attack on African Americans from his seat on the Supreme Court. Where his predecessor Thurgood Marshall fought for and articulated for the Constitutional rights of 35 million Blacks, Thomas wages war against them

If Scalia thinks Blacks can’t hack it, he should start with the moron who sits next to him, but he won’t because Uncle Thomas is Scalia’s idea of a Good Negro. Never speaks out of turn, defers to his betters, and knows his place. Yep, Uncle Thomas is Scalia’s boy, all right.

A boy and his dog.

My opinion on affirmative action is this: it was a necessary remedy due to the sickness of institutional racism that stigmatized and excluded people of color. And it’s still necessary.

Fat Tony’s insulting, belittling, and despicable remarks have the stench of industrial strength racism wafting from them and I have no reason to be respectful of an unrepentant bigot. Calling Scalia “fat” is a mild insult compared to his massive insult Blacks are too stupid to compete on the collegiate level.

Scalia is a fossil and when he finally dries up and blows away it will be a net plus for the highest court he drags into a sewer of ignorance.

Republican Enablers Make Attacks on Abortion Providers Possible. Democratic Wimps Make It Inevitable.

Colorado Springs shooting suspect Robert Lewis Dear of North Carolina is seen in undated photos provided by the El Paso County Sheriff's Office. A gunman burst into a Planned Parenthood clinic Friday, Nov. 27, 2015 and opened fire, launching several gunbattles and an hourslong standoff with police as patients and staff took cover. By the time the shooter surrendered, at least three people were killed, including a police officer and at least nine others were wounded, authorities said. (El Paso County Sheriff's Office via AP)

Colorado Springs shooting suspect Robert Lewis Dear of North Carolina: the latest American Psycho

“We can’t let it become normal. If we truly care about this — if we’re going to offer up our thoughts and prayers again, for God knows how many times, with a truly clean conscience — then we have to do something about the easy accessibility of weapons of war on our streets to people who have no business wielding them. Period. Enough is enough.”
~ President Obama in response to the shootings at a Planned Parenthood clinic

I’m going to engage in speculation here, but I feel certain it isn’t reckless or irresponsible speculation.   The motives and motivations of Robert Dear, the suspect in the Colorado Springs shooting spree  which left three dead and nine wounded, are yet unknown.   What his political leanings were or party affiliation was is also still in doubt, but here’s what I believe isn’t in doubt:  this one is on the Republicans.

I’m not going to lay the blame on conservatism as a whole, but specifically the fault goes to the Republicans. Between Fox News, right-wing radio and opportunistic G.O.P. politicians in cheap suits making Planned Parenthood part of their Axis of Evil, it was only a matter of time before some asshole got their grubby mitts on a gun and started shooting up a clinic. “I’m going to kill cops, patients, nurses and doctors to save the babies because I’m Pro-Life!”

It wasn’t just Carly Fiorina lying her Botoxed face off with a phony video slamming Planned Parenthood as a baby body parts merchant. Fiorina was the one to lie and keep lying after she got caught lying. Fuck the truth and fuck the facts. ARE YOU NOT OUTRAGED?

It’s a goddamn travesty it is even necessary to have police guarding clinics for a woman to undergo a medical procedure.

That’s the Republicans for you. They light the fire, throw gasoline on it, push you in and claim you were clumsy and fell in, then demand an apology for being accused. There is always a chance this Angry White Man could turn out to be a Pro-Choicer who staged a false flag covert op to gin up sympathy for abortion clinics and the movement. We know that’s bullshit, right?

Dr. George Tiller: murdered by an anti-abortion terrorist in 2009.

It is completely acceptable to blame the Republican Party for an abortion clinic terrorist when they have created the political climate in the U.S. that emboldens and then sympathizes with this sort of domestic terrorist action. If wasn’t for the fact a cop was among the slain the GOP would be as sympathetic as they were when Dr. George Tiller was murdered in Kansas by another Angry White Man with a gun.

Dr. Tiller had been singled out by Bill O’ Reilly as “Tiller the Baby Killer” and mentioned him 28 times on his top-rated program. After Tiller was gunned down by Scott Roeder, O’Reilly expressed his sympathy–for his own demagoguery and Fox News’ demonetization of Tiller:

When I heard about Tiller’s murder, I knew pro-abortion zealots and Fox News haters would attempt to blame us for the crime, and that’s exactly what has happened. […]

No backpedaling here, madam [Mary Mapes]. Unlike you, I report honestly. Every single thing we said about Tiller was true, and my analysis was based on those facts. […]

Now, it’s clear that the far left is exploiting — exploiting — the death of the doctor. Those vicious individuals want to stifle any criticism of people like Tiller. That — and hating Fox News — is the real agenda here. Finally, if these people are soooo compassionate — so very compassionate, so concerned for the rights and welfare of others — maybe they might have written something, one thing, about the 60,000 fetuses that will never become American citizens. Or am I wrong?

O’Reilly was wrong but no high-profile Republican calling him out for being wrong.

Be clear on this: I am blaming the far-Right, the right-wing noise machine and the Republican Party’s craven opportunism and pandering to the anti-abortion zealots in general and the mendacity of Carly Fiorina specifically. So-called “Democrats” and “liberals” who had nothing to say about the GOP’s propaganda then are useless enabling dupes with nothing of relevance to say now that people are dead.

You can’t play footsie with sort of fanaticism the way Republicans have and then claim it has nothing to do with anything when some nut takes fighting words and turns them into bloody action.

Denial of the pro-life militancy poison the Republicans have injected into the American body politics supersedes any claim of supposed liberal bona fides. Is it polarizing and impolitic to say the Republican Party has enabled and all but abetted this sort of bloody violence against abortion providers and Planned Parenthood? Sure it is, but so is the rhetoric spewed by the GOP for a long time now and if that didn’t honk off these so-called “liberals”, I could not care less if they don’t like it being said.

The Republicans love to bang on President Obama for not using the term “Radical Islam” in response to international terrorism. When the Republicans call what Robert Dear did in Colorado Springs an act of domestic terrorism, they’ll have a point instead of just a talking point.

The timidity of politicians and the refusal of citizens to call this act of violence by its rightful name: domestic terrorism is denying what happens here in the United States is the same damned thing as what happens on distant shores. A day has passed since the attack in Colorado Springs and only two out of 14 GOP presidential candidates have responded to the shootings, so if before gets offended I’ve namechecked the Republican Party, save some of that righteous wrath on the men and woman who want to be your next Commander-in-Chief yet have nothing to say when yet another city becomes a killing field.

Chances Robert Dear was part of some armed anti-abortion resistance like The Army of God are small, but even if he was the latest in a never-ending series of “lone wolves” hard to detect and harder to stop that should be worrisome to all sides of the abortion argument.

As a writer and journalist, I know how much words mean.  Words matter and words like “baby-killer” and “abortion mill” only polarize.  They can’t facilitate reasoned discussion, but they can push an already mentally unstable person to pick up a gun and go off on a mission to kill the baby killers and when one political party specializes in that sort of hate speech they own the consequences of the chaos it creates.

The passivity of consensus-seeing liberals in the face of concerted conservative enabling of ferocious anti-abortion extremism has not and will not elevate the debate to a higher plane of civility. It’s only abandoning women–and mostly poor women–to the non-existent mercies of maniacs like Robert Dear.

Another city. Another rampage. (AP Photo/David Zalubowski)

Another city. Another rampage. (AP Photo/David Zalubowski)

The reproductive rights of women are literally under attack from anti-abortion fanatics enabled and abetted by the Republican Party. That may not pleasant to read, but it’s far less harmful to the ego than a crazed gunman’s bullets are to the body of a cop, client or staff of an abortion clinic. Republican lawmakers have done all they can to limit, prohibit, restrict and legislate abortion out of existence until they get another Supreme Court justice in place to outlaw it entirely. By this time next year they may well be in position to do just that.

The ramifications of a Republican president returning to the Oval Office is too slow and uncertain for the domestic terrorists who don’t want to wait. The radical extremists targeting abortion providers are hoping their atrocities will be minimized and marginalized as nothing more than one nut’s unhinged act of violence. The Left loves to pin a Good Conduct medal on their shirt for being on the “right” side of women’s issues, but when it comes to putting any teeth to the talk, they opt not to offend the Republicans who have fed this Frankenstein monster since Roe v. Wade.

Liberals and Democrats are selling women out under the vain hope by not being blunt about the enablers Republicans have been to abortion extremist they are going to move them to a more moderate middle ground on abortion and all that is doing is getting people killed. This is the flip side of the argument conservatives have so successfully made against the Left over international terrorism but they aren’t anywhere as reticent about hurting the feelings of liberals and Democrats.

Hard Truths About the Ashley Madison Hack From an Escort’s Perspective

Ashley Madison

When the personal data of 32 million people, including names, addresses, credit card numbers is hacked and dumped online, that’s already a staggering breach  of privacy, but when it comes from a site created for the purposes of promoting sexual infidelity,  it can far more serious and lasting impact; from divorce to suicide.

Here’s a summary of what the hacking of the hook-up site by a group calling itself Impact Team  is about and why Ashley Madison has put a $500,000 “bounty” on them.

While nobody is going to feel sorry for Ashley Madison members cheating on their spouses, yet again we’re reminded anyone of us at anytime is subject to having our entire online life exposed for the rest of the world to see? It’s not that anyone should feel sorry for them, but we should be concerned when we receive yet another reminder there is no privacy anywhere and least of all on the Internet.

Privacy, like free speech, isn’t reserved for only for ourselves and the people we like.

Eternal, everlasting love meshed with deeply satisfying, passionate, curl-your-toes sex is what one always aspires to in a relationship or a marriage. When there’s one without the other,  the possibility exists  one partner will search elsewhere for what they want and are missing.   When there’s neither it becomes a near-certainty. Which is why philandering sites like Ashley Madison thrive.

But while I don’t feel sorry  for the guys (and some gals) who got caught up in the hacking of Ashley Madison,  I don’t believe anyone should lose their lives due to being outed and shamed into taking their own lives and in the aftermath that’s exactly what has happened.

I asked two friends of mine whom are professional sexworkers as paid escorts what they thought of the data breach and the men who were caught up in it.

Escort#1

I happened to be in my email when this came in. I removed all my stuff (pics , phone) from the web as much as I possibly could after I realized what a problem it could be. I don’t even post comments except from my professional email address. I don’t have a FB page, although once I signed up and cancelled and have been tracked by them ever since.

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A Scientific American article from a few months ago wrote that no one now or in the near future can have any realistic expectation of any kind of privacy, and then outlined the reasons why. I had it in paper so don’t have a link for you.

There are almost no laws regulating the net, so it’s gone from a favorite toy to a weapon that can ruin your life. Facebook posts can get you fired from a job if people decide they don’t appreciate your values. Look what happened to Cecil the Lion Killer.

In the old days we put everything out there, then all of a sudden I thought whoaaaa, this never goes away, so I started erasing stuff. There are companies paid to clean your internet image and create a healthier online profile for people who can afford it.

The ridiculous part of Ashley Madison is that guys being guys are just ‘wishing’ in their special kind of deluded way that something fun and spectacular is going to happen – for free.

Ashley Madison meme
Most of those sites don’t work that well, they’re mostly male and female profiles can be fake to drive traffic. Although, one of my clients hooked up with a woman off a site like that and told me he was getting it for free. He was old and fat and barely functional, I kept wondering why a straight girl would want to have a non paid affair with this married man, in that kind of shape?

Then it occurred to me- I think it’s easier to leave a single mom a few 20’s on the nite table and tell her to buy something nice, and still think she’s still banging you cause she likes you. A few might actually like sex with strangers, who knows.

The men aren’t very smart either. It’s so easy to set up a fake email address for your clandestine activities. There are email address companies that claim they won’t buckle to the NSA or HS, no guarantees. A lot of those men used their publicly known email addresses.

Anyway, everyone that doesn’t want to get caught is going to have to be a lot more careful. I’d been telling stupid hookers not to put all their shit out there in case they want to have a life someday, but they’re dumb as rocks most times.

Escort#2
The invasion of privacy is wrong. It’s like a cat burglar. Creepy wrong.

I think I’m on the list. I heard about the site years ago and registered. Not sure if I created much of a profile. I just wanted to see what it was about.

The government emails being on the list, well….why do government servers not block sites that aren’t necessary, why do they allow a government worker to use their government email addresses out side the walls of internal servers. When I worked for the government, I could turn on my computer without a password. I was on night shift, went into the boss’s office and opened his secretary’s computer. Didn’t need a password. I was searching for interview questions. I found them. The person I wanted to get the questions to got the job. Goal accomplished.

My point? I could have made an Ashley Madison account from the boss’ secretaries computer, and she’d be on that list.

I remember once that Vin Diesel made a movie. XXX was the title. My kids looked it up on the computer because they wanted to go to the show and needed to see time it was playing.

Their dad saw a search for XXX and he assumed it was pointed and he punished them.

What about the poor women out there who are really named Ashley Madison???

The news broadcasting stations, reporters, etc…are nothing more than glorified National Enquirer rags. A list??? So fuckin what? I could create a Jeffrey Winbush account on Ashley Madison right now. Make an email address of jeffwinbushwantstogetlaid@gmail.com and you’d be on the next list.

It’s all a crock of shit.

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I’ve looked at all kinds of sketchy websites. The reasons vary from out of morbid curiosity to intriguing interest of how easy it is to access that shit. Because my IP address hit those sites doesn’t make me a child molester.

A.M. hack doesn’t PROVE a fucking thing. But people judge w/o knowing the real truth ALL the time.

The dweebs that committed suicide, well….they were weak and didn’t have a good poker face. Life would have thrown them a curve ball they couldn’t handle sooner or later.

The A.M. hack is basically nasty gossip on a large-scale. People who talk about it, feed it. We are feeding it right now.

What’s so incredulous about this hack is that A.M. was so God damn vanilla that it’s a joke. If people were comfortable enough with sexual fantasy, if government hadn’t been allowed to make adultery, ass fucking, horse fucking, etc.. a crime, no one would give a shit.

Who cares how one fucks or who one fucks as long as they are legally consenting?

One day there will be a way to read our minds. We’ll all be in jail or jumping off cliffs then.

Let’s take that A.M. list and alter it before we publish it? You think that could’ve been done to what was initially published? Could we take that list, modify it and say it was hacked from an escort site? Sure we could.

People are uptight and dumb. I’m glad I don’t live my life in a closet. If I was asked about being on A.M. I could own it. Everyone should. Then there would be no A.M. news anymore.

And that’s all I got to say ’bout dat.

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Hillary Under No Pressure

Yeah, we were bored too. (Photo Credit: Chip Somodeville/Getty Images)

Yeah, we were bored too. (Photo Credit: Chip Somodeville/Getty Images)

What did we learn from the 11-hour “We Hate Hillary” marathon on Capitol Hill before the House Select Committee on Benghazi?

  • Hillary Clinton has a friend named Sidney Blumenthal.
  • Sidney Blumenthal sent Hillary Clinton a bunch of emails.
  • The Republicans have burned through  nearly $5 million bucks, dragged on for 17 months (longer than the Watergate hearings) and all they have to show for it is an empty bag of NOTHING.
  • Trey Gowdy sure sweats a lot.

Now that the Inquisition is finally over, it doesn’t make any difference if you’re a Hillary fan or consider her pond scum. After 11 hours of a prosecution posing as a hearing, what did any of us learn? How much the Republicans believe Sidney Blumenthal is a force of evil?

Maybe the thought of Trey Gowdy and the Republicans members of the committee was if they put Clinton through a grueling endurance contest, (I’m a politics junkie and I had to bail out)  goad her,  bait her, insult her,  throw her in a meat grinder, surely she would screw up,  go off, blow a fuse, and give them something which could be endlessly looped in attack ads, GOP talking points and  all over right-wing media

They didn’t they got it. They got an empty bad of air.  They certainly didn’t get a “What difference does it make?” moment.   Hillary wouldn’t give the Gowdy Gang what they so desperately wanted.    They wanted a meltdown.    They got a composed, unfazed former Secretary of State who sat there for 11 hours and they never laid a glove on her.

The Republicans did everything they could to bait Clinton into losing her cool short of walking up and slapping her in the face.   She just smiled, shrugged and looked as though she felt a pang of sorrow for all this effort expended for so little return.

Brush them haters off.

The Republicans not only failed to make Hillary Clinton crack under constant and relentless pressure, they made her look positively Presidential.

“The reality is that we’ve had eight investigations, we’ve gone through this endlessly,” Rep. Adam Schiff, (D-Calif.,) said. “The reality is that after 17 months, we have nothing new to tell the families. We have nothing new to tell the American people.”

“It is time, and it is time now,” Rep. Elijah Cummings (D-Md)  who had slammed Gowdy to his face, “for the Republicans to end this taxpayer-funded fishing expedition.”

Even chief witch hunter Trey Gowdy’s glumly  admitted to the press, “I don’t know that she testified much differently today than when she previously testified.”  Does that mean Hillary is an excellent liar or proves if you’re telling the truth you don’t have to change your story?

Now everyone can see why Gowdy was telling Republicans to “shut up” about the Benghazi committee.    It was never about what happened to the compound in Libya or how four Americans including Ambassador Chris Stevens had died.   It was always and only about one thing:  Get Hillary.    They could have gone 22 hours and they still would have failed.

The hotter it got the cooler Clinton stayed. Try to imagine Donald Trump or Ben Carson sitting there placidly for 11 hours while seven hostile Democrats try to rip out their spleen. It can’t be done. Carson and Trump would have turned into warm puddles of goo.

Hillary was the adult in a room full of rowdy Republican children.    Trey Gowdy tried to make her look like a liar.   Instead, he may have made her the next president.

"What? Me Worry?"

“What? Me Worry?”

The Bernie & Hillary Show

It’s all smiles and handshakes now, but wait until the long knives come out…

Getting sick and missing work  forced me to miss updating my blog, but even though I’m late posting this,  nothing has changed to invalidate it, so here what I have to say about the first debate for the Democratic presidential candidates.   Doesn’t it make  a difference when there’s a debate without Donald Trump’s fat head filling up the camera?   Lower ratings. More substance. That’s a trade-off worth making.

Bernie Sanders did  very well and did nothing to harm his status as the Ultimate Boogeyman of the Billionaires. Hillary Clinton was polished, seasoned and seemed to be enjoying herself. Martin O’Malley will make someone a very nice Cabinet secretary as long as its nothing too important. Lincoln Chafee should enjoy those two hours because those are the last ones he’s gonna get on a debate stage. Jim Webb would be a very formidable candidate if he were only running as the Republican he once was and still seems to be.

It’s popular to declare a winner of these  things and make everybody else a loser, but this was really only about two of the candidates.   I tuned in for The Bernie & Hillary Show and their not-so special guest stars and it opened to rave reviews for not being anything like the bloody car crash the two Republican debates were.

Who won?  I see it this way:  Politics is the art of the possible and Bernie is full of possibilities. Politics is also the art of the doable, and since no Democrat is liable to make any headway with the Republican majorities in the House and the Senate (more likely of the two to change control), Hillary is better suited to position herself as the one who can get something done.

Bernie appeals to my liberalism.   Hillary appeals to my pragmatism.   I want to follow my heart, but I listen to my brain.

You know what the biggest difference is between watching the Democrats debate after the first two Republican rumbles? You don’t feel your intelligence has been insulted and you’re a bit more hopeful for America than you are after someone has tried to scare you into believing Mexicans are gonna take your job, ISIS is going to kill you in your sleep and bullshit you into believing everything will be fine if we would only give billionaires another tax break.

We’ve already had the Republicans present themselves as if every American is as dumb as they are, so maybe the Democrats taking a shot on Americans actually being smart might work.

For anyone feeling frosty the media proclaimed Clinton the “winner” why do you need the media to confirm for you what you already believe? If Bernie is your guy then don’t wait for him to be anointed by the mainstream media because it’s probably not going to happen.

Sanders did a nice job at the first debate, but some pundits say for him to beat Hillary Clinton he’s gonna have to stop being so nice. The campaigns are just getting revved up and when things stop being so congenial between Clinton and Sanders, I have no doubt when push comes to shove, Hillary will chop Bernie’s head right off his shoulders and smile when it hits the floor. Not so sure the same can be expected from Sanders.

The punditorcracy has already declared Bernie Sanders will never be elected president, but these are the same pundits who said Hillary had this in the bag from the jump, so what do they know?

The problem for Sanders supporters isn’t going to be convincing the media he can actually win. The problem is convincing the voters.

If nothing else, the Democrats have to feel a bit better now to have finally rolled their 2016 models out on the showroom floor.

No, we are NOT Fleetwood Mac!