I’m not keeping up with the “Who Did Tiger Woods Screw Today?” booty count (eleven), but I have taken notice that as the list of White women Tiger hasn’t had sex with gets shorter, the touchy subject of interracial relationships have popped up again.
My Facebook buddy Sophia Angeli Nelson posted a link to a site called A Field Negro.com (not THE Field Negro) where some fool obviously spent a very long afternoon looking for every picture he could find of famous Black men and the White women (and other non-sistas) they love to hug it out with (Check ’em out and then come back here).
Mr. A. Field Negro muses over the state of brothers working it out with White women and concludes:
There’s a lot of FRICTION between Black men and Black women. We can lie to ourselves and pretend that the problem is not there, or we can do something to try and address this problem. What I’m trying to do is create a dialogue, so that we can take a look at this problem.
These are some PICTURES of BLACK MEN that date, and marry outside of their race.
In looking at these pictures I notice that a lot of brothers are now dating Asian women, and there’s nothing wrong with that because when two people are in love, their skin color shouldn’t matter.
These are some good brothers, there’s no question about that, but I’ve often heard Black men complain about Black women hot temper, and their attitude. A few weeks ago I was talking to some brothers, and they said man I love sisters, but it seems like they are never satisfied.
With that being said when we look at these pictures, then we have to ask this question——–is it possible that some sisters, are driving brothers away?
No. It’ ‘s not possible. That’s just you looking for an excuse, Mr. A. Field Negro.
As you can imagine the Black women who also read Sophia’s post didn’t take that too well at all. Whenever I hear a brother say, “I love Black women–BUT, they are too high maintenance and demanding for me,” I have to wonder if what they are really saying is, “I’d rather have a weak and compliant White women than a strong and confident Black woman.”
I have a friend who rolled up in his new Volvo and his White girlfriend to get some gas. As he paid for it, the brother working the cash register scoped out the car and then the passenger. He asked my friend, “Brother, I just want to ask you, which came first: The Volvo or the White girl?”
It’s not difficult to figure out why so many successful Black men date White women (and other races). It’s a status thing. It’s a way of saying, “Look what I can afford now.” Some brothers believe the stereotype that White women are more feminine than Black women, easier to get along with and are the biggest freaks in the world.
I don’t have anything against anyone who crosses the color line whether their looking for love, friendship or just to get horizontial between the sheets. It’s not my business. It’s not my choice. Enjoying the company of White women is something I’ve done in the past, but that’s not what my choice was when I went looking for a life partner. I tell my kids I don’t care who they choose to be with. Just know going in that it’s tough as it is to be with another person. Throw race into the mix and the job only gets tougher.
Look, how can you tell someone it’s okay to love this person, but not that person? The fact of the matter is if you lined up Halle Berry, Vanessa Williams, Tyra Banks and Gabrielle Union butt nekkid, there are brothers that would pole vault over them to get to Susan Boyle because that’s their choice. How you gonna stop that? Why even try?
It’s a free country and nobody’s going to force a White woman to stay away from Black men if that’s how she rolls and if Black women don’t want to “settle” for just any guy because all they have in common is skin color, they’re equally free to go after whomever makes their toes tingle. That hardly means there’s something “wrong” with Black women and they are undeserving of Black men. That’s just bull.
Ask Tiger how much easier it is to get along with a White women when you publicly embarrass one the way he’s embarrassed Elin Nordgren. If she divorces his ass, a good team of attorneys will shred their pre-nuptial agreement like a wet Kleenex. We’ll see how meek and deferential Tiger’s White women is if she gets half his assets. When Michael Strahan divorced his White wife all she did was accuse him of being a closet homosexual and a judge later awarded Jean Muggli $15.3 million and ordered the former New York Giants all-pro defensive end to pay $18,000 a month in child support for their twin daughters.
Can you say “SACKED?!”
You can’t gloss over the inconvenient truth a LOT of White women are fiendin’ after that sexual chocolate. When I was writing a book about internet escorts, even the pros said they loved the few Black clients they had. When you extrapolate all the Black men who are gay, dating outside the race, in lockdown or otherwise unavailable to single Black women, good brothes are low in number and high in demand.
You can’t blame Black women for being a little frosty about all the Russell Simmons, Quincy Jones and Taye Diggs that are selling to sistas and sleeping with the other team. Which is why Black women are also looking around and exploring their own alternatives.
I don’t think sistas will all of a sudden have to retaliate by dating White, Latino and Asian men. They already do. Go down the list of Black women crossing over to the Caucasian side of the street and you’ll find Halle Berry, Tina Turner, Whoopi Goldberg, Diana Ross, Diahann Carroll, Alfre Woodard, Paula Patton, Iman and Naomi Campbell all parking their slippers under a White man’s bed.
I’ve been married to a Black woman for 28 years, so I can’t really relate to the website. Different strokes for different folks. If you confuse the unusual with the usual you might think every successful brother is with anything but a Black woman. I don’t think Denzel Washington, Bill Cosby, Will Smith or the President of the United States have … See Moregiven up on the sistas yet. Why get stressed over the choice of a famous few when the unknown many is overwhelmingly still down for the around the way girl?
Personally, I don’t care. My daughter has a crush on Joe Jonas and Taylor Laughtner of the new Twilight movie. Should I worry? My sister used to think Peter Frampton was cute, but she didn’t end up marrying him. True love knows no color and it doesn’t play politics. For some reason I remain confident there’s still plenty of gas left in Black Male/Female relationships.
Love is colorblind. The world is not. Know that going in and all will be well.